I don’t know it all. I haven’t done it all. I haven’t seen it all.
Somehow, people still value my opinion enough to repeatedly ask my advice. Little ol’ Keshia. The 28 year old senior citizen. I’ve been told that I’m wise beyond my years. I’ve been told this so many times, that I’ve had to take pause and marinate on what I think wisdom is. This post is not to say that I do everything right all the time, it’s just a look into my process of assessing situations and trying to avoid as much self-inflicted pain as possible.
wise: having the power of discerning and judging properly as to what is true or right; possessing discernment, judgement, or discretion.
I have no idea why I see the things the way I do. There have PLENTY of times where I didn’t make the right decisions. There are things I’ve regretted (but I got over them because regret is a waste of space). It was those imperfect moments that helped strengthen my wisdom. I’ve always been someone who will think something through, sometimes to the point where it is annoying. Even “random” things that I’ve done were thought through. Yep. I actively made the choices; even the stupid ones. I’m guilty of knowing EXACTLY what I should have done, but choosing to ignore the discerning voice.
I’m a firm believer in the notion that every action has a reaction or consequence. I believe in karma. I believe that a hard head makes a soft ass. I don’t have the fortitude, latitude, or longitude for self-inflicted crappy consequences. So what do I do? I observe. I pay close attention to situations around me, even those that I may be a part of. I don’t forget the past mistakes I’ve made. I carry them as a reminder of what not to do. I don’t make it my business to touch the stove after being told that it’s hot. I haven’t always listened to the advice of others, because I was stupid and stubborn, but every consequence that followed I accepted.
Rule of Thumb: If you can live with the aftermath, if you can live with the karma, and if you can accept responsibility for every action you take…go for it. Treat yo’self.
Wisdom isn’t knowing all. Wisdom isn’t even age. Wisdom is learning. Having the sense to not repeat the same dumb mistakes and then trying to figure out why everything is against you. You can’t have wisdom without knowledge. Above all, wisdom is honesty. If you’re not truly honest with yourself, you’ll never actually learn anything, you’ll just be going through the motions in a constant recovery mode. Everything does happen for a reason, I just try to not have it be a reason I’d want to slap myself over.
Life is stressful enough, why choose to weigh yourself down with extra stress?