Life · Positivity · Wellness

I’m Not Good At Anything, How Do I Find My Outlet?

outlet

I feel like I’m always talking about how important it is to have a positive outlet. 

The very existence of this blog is a testament to what happens when you find such an outlet. Outlets are necessary because they feed our need for purpose and identity while allowing us to relieve tension. No one is exempt from unhappiness, but when we’re able to channel that negative energy elsewhere, we can have a better quality of life. There’s no denying the positive effects of an outlet, but the question still remains:

How do you FIND your outlet?

Whenever people ask me that question, they usually follow it up by telling me that they’re not good at anything. I don’t believe that–everyone is good at something and can become even better with practice. Sometimes it’s not so much about what you’re good at, but about what you enjoy doing. Maybe a creative outlet isn’t your thing. Maybe you’re meant to spend more time channeling your energy into something you already enjoy doing. For example, You may not be a writer, but you enjoy the relaxation of reading a book. Your outlet can be reading. Your outlet removes you from your stressors. 

calm activity

Before I started this blog, the only thing I knew for sure was that people enjoyed my commentary. I didn’t see myself as a writer or artist, I didn’t think that I was some kind of guru. All I knew was that I was stressed to capacity, and I loved how relaxing it was to run my fingers across a computer keyboard. I knew that I enjoyed writing and wanted to be heard, but I was no expert. (I’m still no expert haha.)

Even though I had an idea of what my abilities were, I don’t think I could’ve really settled on an outlet had it not been for the input of others. If you don’t know what you’re good at, maybe it’s because you’re too close to see it. Ask your friends. Ask your family. Ask your coworkers. You’d be surprised what others see in you. Sometimes, you may not be surprised, you may just need that extra vote of confidence.

My point is this: Don’t waste time telling yourself what you can’t do. Instead, actively search for the activity that will bring you peace and purpose.

P.S.

Maybe you’ve read all of this and you’re thinking, “I already know what I’d LIKE to do, I just don’t know HOW to do it”. If this is the case, you likely need a brain trust–someone to bounce ideas off of so that you can refine those that stick.

I’m more than happy to help you sort things out! Click here to get started on finding your outlet!

blogging · Current Events

Trust The Process: My Second Month of Blogging

I’m nearing month 3 of “Keshia’s Modern Life”and today I’d like to let you guys know what new things I’ve experienced since my last progress report (go ahead and check that out). If I had to choose a theme for this past month, it would be “Trust The Process”. Month 1 was spent getting things off of the ground, but this second month has been about keeping and gaining momentum. Now that I’m off the ground, time to hit the clouds.

Here are 3 things that I’ve learned this month:

NEW DEFINITION OF “CONSISTENCY”

punch clock

My posting schedule has changed A LOT. There were days where I would feel so obligated to the schedule that I’d get caught up in writer’s block–NO TIME FOR THAT. During this second month I came to understand this: I needed to be obligated to my blog content, not a schedule. Now, I don’t judge myself based on sticking to a scheduled time of day for posting; I focus more on the consistency of quality. I may not be able to post at 9:00 a.m., but when an inspired post comes to mind at 12:30 p.m., that is what I will write about. I’d rather wait for inspiration than lose the organic feel. I already punch the clock 5 days a week, we’re not doing that over here.

FINDING MY VOICE

“Keshia’s Modern Life” is about me. It’s based on my viewpoints and discoveries while I adult my way through life. If it’s based on me, why do I have to find MY OWN voice? The answer to this is pretty simple. I’ve had to come to the realization that my charm is found in the way I say things. Originally, I was afraid of being too informal because I didn’t want to lose quality. Now, I feel more comfortable in becoming one with the content. I HAVE TO BE MYSELF!!

AUDIENCE BUILDING

fb 100Let’s make one thing clear: I’M NOT WRITING TO MYSELF HERE! The whole point of this thing is to share my awesomeness with you, and to grow from the awesomeness of your prositive vibes! Audience is key to blogging, and this month I have had to dig deep in figuring out who my audience is. This discovery is key for one reason: If I don’t know who I’m speaking to, then how can I give you what you want? The toughest part of this process has been audience engagement. I love interating with people, but it can be hard to get the audience to continue dialogue (usually done via comments). My crew is growing slowly but surely, so hopefully next month’s update will include my breaking that engagement wall.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: BLOGGIN’ AIN’T EASY!!! You’ll spend a lot of time questioning yourself. You’re going to stretch your mind beyond its comfort zone. You’re going to wonder if you’ll ever reach anyone outside of your bedroom. Don’t be discouraged! This is only a part of your story, trust in yourself and trust in the process.

P.S.

If you’re on Facebook, make sure you click here to follow “Keshia’s Modern Life” for even more Keesh goodness not found on my blog! We officially hit the 100 Fans milestone yesterday!!! Let’s Keep Growing!!

Thanks for your continued support, and let’s see where the next month takes us!

Current Events · Life · Positivity

Rebel Without A License: Driver’s Edition

tina driving 2

Hi. My name is Keshia.

(Hi Keshia!)

I’m 28 years old, and I don’t have my Driver’s License.

(Wait. Whaaaa???)

Yes. You read that correctly. I’m knocking on 30’s door, and I have yet to obtain my license to drive. After this morning’s events at the DMV, I think it’s time to let you guys in on my ongoing struggle. Your first question may be, “What’s taken you so long?”. Well. I guess I’ll start from the beginning.

Picture it, Norfolk. 2003. I’m in the 10th grade and I’m learning all about the rules of the road and what it takes to earn a license. I’ve beasted on every written test that was given, and all I need to do is get some road practice. Even though I’m in a low-income household, the school provides a way for me to take a driver’s ed course for free.

I never took the course. 

I was under the impression that if I got my license, it would cause my grandmother’s insurance to go up (something that she couldn’t afford) whether I drove her car or not. So, I decided that I’d just wait and get my license later. Well, later came MUCH later.

Later came in 2010. At this point, I’m 22/23 years old and finally make it a point to get my Learner’s Permit. I have had no consistent practice behind the wheel, but I’m going to get that right? Nope. I won’t get any type of practice/guidance/instruction behind the wheel until 2012/2013. My older sister allows me to take the wheel and get on the road a bit. I don’t get to drive too often, so I’m still not as comfortable as I should be while handling a vehicle. Up until this year, all of my driving experience had just been sprinkled in here and there. I had no car to drive regularly to get the experience I really needed.

tina driving

Fast forward to 2016. I’ve had the opportunity to drive my younger sister’s car and I have a knack for this driving thing now. Boom. I’m ready to get my license. I go to the DMV, I wait 3 hours to take the written test (I’m in North Carolina now and must start from scratch). I sit down to take my test–I’m just all kinds of excited–and before I get to the second question, it happens.

THE WHOLE SYSTEM SHUTS DOWN. No internet. No phones. No test.

It’s ok. I’ll just go to the DMV again later and take the written and road tests in the same day. I’ve got this. Right?

Kinda. I decide to go a different DMV location–hoping for less wait time–and I knock the computer test out of the park. I mean, I’m over there just giving you EVERY correct answer. The time has come, and I’m ready for my road test.

I’m nervous as hell. The instructor looks like the instructor from hell–very intimidating. I get inside the car, and I check all of the vehicle functions. I’m ready to hit to hit the road.

tina swerves

Well, instead of hitting the road, I hit something else. I hit the DO NOT ENTER sign that was directly behind the car as I tried to navigate this one-way parking lot. Man…you should’ve seen it. My DMV audience let out a collective groan as they saw me–a ball of nerves–trying to maneuver the car. Long story short, I failed hard. I never made it out of that parking lot. 

Fast forward to today. I’ve had even more driving practice (I LOVE driving on the highway by the way), and I’m going to OWN this road test this time around. I’m making my way down the road, following my instructor’s directions, and on my way back I have a bad feeling. When I went back inside the DMV office, my instructor told me that I had failed. I made a turn that was too wide, and I went past the 35 mph speed limit while coming downhill. (To my credit, I felt the car’s momentum picking up and was braking to bring the speed down, but this was not enough.)

The second failure REALLY pissed me off because I was just fed up with having had so many trips to the DMV in the first place. I’M ALMOST 30!!! Once I calmed down, I was able to see the positives: at least I’d made it out of the parking lot, and at least I knew what I needed to work on. I’m going out of town for a few days, but when I come back, I’m going to give the test a third try. I’m going to leave the nervousness at home, and I’m going to slay the road test. Next week, I will be giving you LICENSED DRIVER REALNESS.

Third time is the charm.

P.S. HELP A HOMIE OUT:

How long did it take you to earn your license? How many times did the fail (if any)? Let me know, and leave some good vibes for my final test!!

Photos courtesy of Pinterest

 

 

Life · Positivity

Why Planning Doesn’t Work

ADAPT BLOG

If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” – Benjamin Franklin

You’ve heard it before. You know how important it is to plan as much as you can if you ever want to have any success in your life. Planning is how you stave off failure. Plans make the world go round. Blah blah blah…Benjamin Franklin was cool and all, but I’m not here for it.

I call BS.

If you’ve learned anything about me up to this point, then you know that I am proof that plans can’t save you from failure, nor can they guarantee success. You know what guarantees success or failure? Adaptability. You can have the most organized daily planner this side of the equator–Those of you who have your monthly agendas organized to the max may hate me for this–but if you don’t know how to adapt to the curveballs of life: YOU WILL LOSE. The key is to stick and move.

I’ve made so many plans in life that simply vaporized into thin air instead of leading me to the goal I had in mind. It’s happened so many times, that I’ve all but given up completely on the idea of planning. I hate the disappointment of a failed plan so much that I’d rather rely on my skills of adaptation than on a plan. At this point in my life, I’d like to think that instead of making concrete plans, I’ve become more of a forward thinker who looks forward to the potholes of life so that I’m not completely taken by surprise.

There’s one plan in particular that changed the course of my life and forever changed my view on plans.

*insert dream sequence*

It was 2005. I was a senior in high school. I’d already decided that I would go to school to study Culinary Arts and I would do so at Johnson & Wales University. Having grown up in a low-income household my whole life, I still had no doubt that I’d be going to college. As a matter of fact, I knew that I would go to college for 4 years, graduate, work in a restaurant (maybe even own one), and have all the income I’d need to pay back my student loans.

What a crazy plan, right?

Well, what had happened was…

I completed one full year of school. In my second year, I suffered some kind of weird, depressive breakdown where it was really hard to get out of bed and I was stressed and not really myself. I was stressed because I had rent to pay, and no job with which to pay it–and for many other reasons. Because I couldn’t get myself out of bed one too many times, I was dropped from school and had to go back home. When I first got back home, I was so upset with myself for not completely the program at JWU, that I didn’t want to go back to school for anything at all. I had no idea what I would study next. I mean, if you can’t go to Johnson & Wales, where can you go? That’s sad. 

Fast forward 2 years or so–they were not fast AT ALL–and I’ve finally gotten back into school at a community college. Great, I’m going to study Liberal Arts, be done in 2 years and transfer to a university for something else. There was only one problem with this plan: my gallbladder. I’d completed my first year and was working on my second when I have to have an emergency surgery to remove my gallbladder. I was only 23 years old, but my gallbladder was very angry and wasn’t gonna take it ANYMORE!! I was out of school for 2 weeks of recovery, reaching out to my instructors to find ways to make up work. Nope. No making up anything. I’d been dumped by my gallbladder and by my instructors.

I’d had enough. I HAD TO FINISH COLLEGE!!! Determined to finish school, I gathered up all of my credits and transferred to Norfolk State University where and studied for another 2 years before FINALLY graduating at the age of 27.

The success in my story was not in the planning, but in the determination to adapt and move forward. My desire to finish outweighed the disappointment of my failed plan. Don’t mistake my disdain for planning as an equal dislike of goal-setting. In my eyes, these two ideas are not the same. I’m all for you having goals, but what I’m NOT for is the notion that a plan alone will help you achieve those goals. Failed plans are disappointing as hell and can throw you off track if you let them. If you’re going to plan for ANYTHING, you’d better be planning to adapt. You have to be able to keep one hand on the wheel and one hand ready to shift gears. Stick and move.

 

 

Life · Positivity

Borrowed Confidence

 

CONFIDENCE

I am my biggest critic. When I’m unsure about something, I open the doors of my fight club (I’m the only member allowed, sorry) and I go into a very negative frame of thought.

I can be super positive for the most part, but there are so many times where I can be really hard on myself. These days, I am working so hard to accomplish new things, but I sometimes feel like I am incompetent. There are times where I feel like I’m barely making things happen. These are the times where my confidence needs the most boosting. Recently, a friend gave me some sound advice. He taught me that you sometimes have to borrow confidence from those who believe in you until you have enough confidence of your own. It sounds simple enough, but how simple is it?

Allowing someone to lend you the confidence necessary in digging yourself out of your personal fight club can be difficult. When I’m mad at myself, I tend to get so ANNOYED that if you tell me everything is going to be fine, I’m usually poised and ready to rip your head off of your shoulders. I may very well believe what you’re saying to me, but I have to cool off enough to receive it. I’ve been trying to figure out why I beat myself up that way and I think that I may be closer than ever to the conclusion.

I like to do things on my own.

It’s as simple as that. I’m not the only one who likes to think that they can do things using their own power. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the desire to make things happen for yourself; the issue is that it can make it hard for you to recognize the need for help. It can be hard to concede to the idea that someone else is helping you. At this point, you might be saying to yourself, “I don’t need anybody for anything, I can provide for myself!”. That’s cute. You may not need help with tangible resources, but we all can use a sincere vote of confidence. Having someone–that you can trust–tell you that you CAN achieve your goals can be better than any tangible resource out there.

If you don’t believe in yourself enough, then you’re more likely to throw in the towel. Now that you’ve thrown in that towel, you’ve accomplished nothing at all. Now that you’ve accomplished nothing, you’re even more unsure of yourself and beating yourself up because you gave up. The moral of this post is to seek out someone who can lend you the confidence you need to press forward in the same way that you search for other resources. Don’t be too prideful to accept the loan. As you push forward and check off your milestones, you’ll gain more confidence in yourself–the greatest accomplishment of all.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How I Started Blogging (And How You Can Too)

Since starting this site, I’ve been asked several questions:

  • Why did you start a blog?
  • How do you start a blog?
  • What do you do on a blog?

I’ve covered bits and pieces of this in different posts, but what better way to answer these questions than by putting all of the information into one post? Before I began blogging again, I took some time to research a bit to see what kind of insight I’d stumble upon. Today, I share this insight with you, along with insight based on my own experience.

WHAT IS A BLOG?

If you’re trying to find out what a blog is, you’re likely to do a Google search–I’ll save you the trouble. According to Google, a blog is defined as a regularly updated website or web page, typically one run by an individual or small group, that is written in an informal or conversational style. Long story short, just about any website that you’ve likely viewed can be considered a blog. The site you visit to get your celebrity gossip fix? Blog. The site you visit for fun cupcake recipes? Blog. A blog isn’t some special species that exists in the wide world of interwebs, it’s more simple than you realize and anyone can start one.

HOW DO YOU START A BLOG?

Now that you know what a blog is, you’re probably ready to get right to it. Wait. Before starting a blog, it’s important to ask yourself one question: Why do you want to start a blog in the first place?

I’ve included that pivotal question in this section because I think that the reason has to be established before starting anything. When you ask yourself this question, don’t assume that your reason is lame. I have only one requirement for your answer: Your answer had better be strong enough to keep you going every day.

Here are a few examples of reasons to begin blogging:

  • you need an outlet for your emotions
  • you want to educate others on a certain topic
  • you want to earn extra money (or full-time money) without punching a clock
  • you want to share your artistic talents with other (music, design, etc.)

Why did I start? I began blogging because I was in need of an outlet. I feel like my life’s purpose is to share with people; you never know how your words can impact the lives of others who may deal with similar issues. I’m still in the trenches of creating posts and building an audience, but I’ve certainly learned a lot about the blogging process in a short period of time.

Ohhhh Snap! Now it’s time to start your blog!

For me, setting up the site was the easy part. I’d had experience with blogging before and knew to visit www.wordpress.com to create my blog. The dashboard is easy to navigate and it makes life easy for the first-time blogger. On the dashboard, you will be able to choose from different themes–free or premium–to give your site that snazzy look. Decide what type of post schedule you will have (daily, weekly, every 2 days, etc.). The overall look of your posts will vary based on the blog’s purpose. I like to include a single picture in each of my posts (longer posts can use more), and at some point, I will start to include videos. You can work using the WordPress domain that you create, or you can invest in your own domain name. In my humble opinion, the look and feel of your blog can (and will) change over time so those things don’t matter as much at the very beginning.

Having said all this, I know that easy isn’t easy for everyone and some need a little more help getting started. Whether you need help in the technical department or in finding your “WHY”, I am here to help.

The whole point of this section is this: GET STARTED!!

ACTIVE BLOGGING MODE

Ok. So now you’ve started your blog. You’re all jacked up on the mountain dew of life and you’re just ready to post your life away. Let me warn you now: it’s not all unicorns and lemonade. There are going to be days where you will struggle to fit your blog posts into your already busy schedule. There will be days where you will have no idea what to talk about. The active blogging state is the true test of your commitment. If you don’t really care to be committed to the blogging process, that’s fine, that just means that this entire post may not be meant for you at all. For those of you who, like myself, find purpose in blogging and want to see how far it can take you, these hard times can cause great damage to your confidence.

DON’T GIVE UP!! I started out blogging every single day. At first, it was easy for me to post every day. Once things in my life started changing my routine, it became harder to commit to posting daily. It became harder to decide what I would write about. These days, whenever I find myself unable to find a topic to write about, I just resolve to find inspiration throughout my day. This tactic may mean that I end up posting much later in the day, but it’s always better than not posting at all. I have to remind myself every day that this is my purpose, this is the one thing I look forward to on a regular basis. It’s ok to take a break to refresh and recharge, just don’t break so long that you fall off the horse completely.

The point of this section: Give yourself room to learn the process and to learn yourself in those first months of blogging. Everyone’s experience is different. Allow yourself to feel the process, and you’ll be able to blog in YOUR way. This is how you will find your voice.

WHERE’S MY AUDIENCE?

This is the area that I’m still working on locking down. From my experience, I’ve found that the key to gaining an audience is posting consistently, and posting on as any platforms as possible. WordPress allows you to set up sharing options for most of the major social media networks. I have each of my posts set to share to my Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn accounts. I also share screenshots of each post to my Instagram–I have the link to my blog in the bio. As you chug along on your blogging journey, you’ll get an idea as to what kind of posts your readers like the most. You can share your posts all day long, but sharing means nothing if your posts are not quality.

The point of this section: Consistently post your QUALITY material on different platforms and your audience will grow. Take note of the types of posts that your audience is most drawn to, this will help you KEEP that audience.

The decision to blog was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Since the start of this journey, I have learned so much about myself, my abilities, and how to reach others. You may have read this post and said to yourself, “Yeah, this isn’t for me.” and that is okay!! This post was meant to give insight–a peek behind the curtain–so that you can make the decision for yourself. I encourage you all to give it a shot because you never know what you’ll discover about yourself.

Happy Blogging!!

 

Life · Positivity

The Voice

It was 2:40 am. I’d finally forced myself to put away my journal and laptop so that I could at least grab 4 hours of sleep. I had a planned meet-up before work and I didn’t want to be late. As soon as my head hit the pillow, my plan for sleep was thwarted. The voice inside my head repeatedly asked me, “How hard are you willing to work?”. How did I answer? I grabbed my phone and I started typing. 

I have had many nights that were similar to that night, but this one was a bit different. That same night I had experienced a feeling of frustration like never before. I was upset about how hard it has been for me to step out of my comfort zone by working to set up a different life for myself. When you see the entrepreneurs who preach about how they were able to quit their jobs and build their own lives from scratch, you have no real sense of the hard work that goes into it. They try to give you a glimpse beyond the mystique by sharing their growing pains, but there’s nothing like the act of experiencing them yourself. I’ve experienced so many growing pains lately that I’ve sometimes wondered if this is all a waste of my time. That night, every frustration I’d had up to that point culminated in the sound of that voice, and it was at that point that I was reminded: this is SO worth it

I want every reader of this blog to understand that I am constantly working to practice everything that I preach in these posts. I’m here to tell you that living your life in pursuit of purpose is NOT cute. There are plenty of sleepless nights and very long days. There are plenty of times where I doubt my abilities. There are days where I can’t envision myself in any position in life aside from the one in which I currently reside. Sometimes I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing. Do I really want to live this way? 

You bet your ass I do. That voice in my head was more than a push, it was the sound of progress. I am consistently growing in my abilities and in my drive to succeed. How hard am I willing to work? I’m willing to keep working until that same voice in my head is yelling, “See, I knew you could do it!”. I refuse to give up on myself and I will continue to push myself out of the comfort zone and into the growth zone. 

Life · Positivity · relationships

Authentic Life Experiences

ATTENTION

In today’s times, it’s SO easy to be distracted. We are so connected to the goings-on around us, that we aren’t connected to the goings-on around us. So many people claim that their lives are so boring and uninteresting but maybe that’s not the case. Maybe it’s the lack of genuine experience that poses the problem.

My Uber driver today schooled me on what it is to appreciate classical music. He said that you get to REALLY experience it when you’re not listening too hard. You truly experience the music when you’re not distracted by your own thoughts. This statement is true for life in general. When we distract ourselves, we’re unable to have healthy, authentic experiences and we’re left feeling empty.

How many times have you gone out to eat and watched people ignore each other because they were too busy on their phones? How about that parent who was so focused on an argument that they were unable to really enjoy playing with their kid at the park? We miss out on so many great experiences because of distraction, yet we mistake the distraction for the experience. We find ourselves so eager to document a moment, that we’re not even fully in the moment. I can admit my own guilt in this, i.e. taking video at a concert.

We let so many things distract us from the positive experiences, that we think less of our lives. You’re not missing out on the cool things because they’re not coming your way, you’ve missed out because you didn’t commit to the moment. Commit your heart, mind, and body to the experiences of this life. Your loved ones will thank you for it, and you’ll see just how interesting your life can be.

Life · Positivity · Wellness

That Time That I Didn’t Have 99 Cents

I know that some people think it’s tacky to talk finances, but oh well. Money is a main character in this saga. This is a funny story involving myself, and 99 cents. Enjoy.

I am currently testing out the iOS 10 Beta on my iPhone 6s. Because I know that I’m dealing with the beta version of a new software, I had already mentally prepared myself before initiating the download process. While at work one day, I was suddenly notified that my iClod storage was almost full. I thought to myself, “This can’t be right. I have 50gb!”–I brushed it off. Moments later, I’m notified again. This time, I vow to contact Apple because I just KNOW that this is some kind of beta-related bug. It wasn’t until a few hours later that it hit me.

I didn’t have 99 cents.

In fact, I had 76 cents to my name until payday. Because I didn’t have 99 cents, Apple was unable to withdraw the 99 payment for my storage. Maaaaan, if you could have seen my face when this all clicked in my head…I laughed until the cows came home and took a nap. All I could do was laugh. I laughed because I thought of how dumb I would’ve sounded had I called Apple with that foolishness. I laughed because the reasoning that I used before purchasing the 50gb of iCloud storage was that I’d always have 99 cents–yet there I was. No dollar, no cloud. I laughed because there was nothing I could do about it.

The moral of this story? I don’t know if really have a specific moral. What I CAN say is that it is SO important to not dwell on things that are beyond your control at the time. I wasn’t down to my last 76 cents because I had been out having a gay old time and blowing money, but because of responsibility. I knew that I just had to be patient and wait because there was nothing else that I could do. I can assure you, you will lose your mind worrying about things that are out of your hands.

I could afford to lose my iCloud; I can always buy more storage. My sanity? My ability to keep a grip on life? That’s something I can’t afford to lose–especially over 99 cents.

Life · Positivity · Uncategorized

Perspective


I feel like I’ve covered a topic similar to the one I am going to discuss in today’s post, but my spirit tells me that this needs to be reiterated. Yesterday, at yet another one of my maintenance check meetings, the conversation led to a profound realization; things are rarely what they seem. I’ve spoken before about envy and how dangerous it is because looks are so deceiving. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, and you may even find that maybe your grass isn’t as brown as you think.

I had a pretty serious situation plaguing my mind with worry just a few months ago. In the middle of our conversation, my friend noticed how much I’d changed since that period; he noticed that the very thing that made me feel so hopeless before was now a thing of the past. The truth is that even though it’s in the past, I remember very well what my thought process was during that time. In hindsight, I can see that it wasn’t as bad as it could’ve been. I didn’t take that situation lying down, but I used it as fuel to propel myself into a different state of mind and being, so I could then transition into a better situation.

Let me be clear. I will never discount how bad things can get. There are times where you can’t get any lower. You may read my posts and think that I am out of touch with reality and that I just skip through life wearing a permanent smile. This is not the case at all. I have just learned over time that perspective is one of the very few things that have allowed me to retain composure in times of crisis. It has taken me a great deal of time to gain the ability to take a step back and revamp my perspective during crisis.

Only in the most extreme of cases are we able to look at our individual circumstances and not find a single thing that can be worse. I know worse. I’ve had my own flavor of worse, and I’ve seen others experience flavors that I’d never wish on anyone. I can’t stress enough how important it is to engage your powers of perspective during the bad times. Seeing things little differently can have a major impact on your ability to handle those trying times. One thing in life is always certain: LIFE HAPPENS TO EVERYONE! No one is exempt from times of trouble. Equip yourself with the mindset that allows you to better handle the challenges.