Recently, during one of my thought sessions, I thought about how much of life is based on cause and effect. I came to a bold realization: We don’t make mistakes, we make choices. (Yes, bold statement.) There are forces of nature that just a cause things to happen, of course these things are out of our control, but most of our lives can be chalked up to choices–this applies to both positive and negative experiences. I don’t know about you, but in being honest with myself, I can think of so many things in my life that could’ve been different had I just made a different decision.
Owning your decision-making is an ugly process. I mean, who wants to admit that they’re wrong? Admitting fault is a touchy thing, but it’s real. Saying “I made a mistake” sometimes sounds like a cop-out. Yes we’re imperfect. Yes we do things that make no sense. So many times we certainly misplace blame. I think that the more honest we are ourselves about how much power we have over the outcome of our lives, thethe morebetter better off we will be. It’s easy to blame someone else for why something has happened to us; it’s not easy to reconcile with the fact that we’ve made a poor decision. You can’t fix anything if you’re not honest enough to identify a problem. Well, if you’re not honest enough to realize that you’ve repeatedly made poor choices, then how can you become better at making the right choices?
I’ve put myself through so much unnecessary foolishness all because I made foolish choices. While some would blame others, I knew to blame myself. I STILL make stupid choices, but being honest about that has helped me move in better directions and avoid much more grief and heartache. This post is a representation of my thought process through it all. I’m learning to empower myself to create the life I want.
Here’s my challenge to you: Sit down and reflect on your own life.
How many times have you made things unnecessarily hard on yourself? How many times have you blamed others when the power was all in your hands? Do you TRUST yourself to make good choices? It can be painful, but the honesty can certainly help. Own your bad choices, and strive to make better ones in the future. You have more power over your life than you could ever realize.